For the human life the anchors are - values! Values are not material things of our life, that have important and worth value for us (for example: love, health). We can't touch them or divide in two, but we know that they exist as concept and have a certain form in our life, mean for us something special.
Values divide our world in important things and not important once. Why that it's so important to know what is important for you, what fulfill your days with the special sense. If you experienced before the feeling of regret or had a feeling of emptiness in the end of the full day, that means you have been acting against your values. Doing something that is not important, make us fill empty.
Values define our choices. For example, if your manager ask you to stay at work an hour later to brainstorm a new project, but your partner were announcing you, that today you both go to cinema right after your job. What will you do?
You probably could say "no" for your manager, because you want to keep the promise for your partner and you value relationship.
You probably will say "yes" for your manager in case that you are expecting the salary improvement after extra work and then you can also invest in your relation ant take your partner in an unexpected trip for few days in exotic places.
You probably could say "yes" for your manager, if you know that this meeting will teach you many things regarding your new position and you could raise up in career faster. Than you value of " relationship" is less important then "personal development".
It's all about choices you do. Sometimes we even want to deny that we value some things more than others, but the true is- if we pay attention to certain thinks more- this is the most powerful indicator of our priorities. Why? Attention - is about our time spending and time we can't take back or borrow from or friend! So, if you say your health is very important, but you can't find even 3 minutes a day to exercise, whom do you want to full?
People that define their personal values are more aware what they want in their life and how to act in order to make it real. They find time for exercises if they say that health is important !
Do you know your values?..